Self-identity
Self-concept, self-identity, and social identity
Charles Cooley proposed that part of your self-perception comes from how you think others see you. He called this the looking-glass self (1902). Later, George Herbert Mead examined the self - the unique identity that develops through social interaction. Mead argued that to develop a self, you have to learn to view yourself from another person’s perspective.
That ability isn’t inborn. It develops through socialization, the process that teaches you to take someone else’s viewpoint and interpret situations the way they might. Over time, this helps you become self-aware.
Mead suggested a specific developmental sequence:
- In the preparatory stage, children mainly imitate others because they don’t yet understand how other people perceive situations. They copy the actions of people they interact with often, such as caregivers.
- Next is the play stage, when children begin taking the role of one specific other person at a time. For example, a child might adopt a parent’s perspective by mimicking adult behaviors - playing dress-up or pretending to talk on the phone.
The role of self-esteem, self-efficacy, and locus of control in self-concept and self-identity
- Self-esteem
- Refers to an individual’s overall sense of self-worth and personal value. It includes beliefs and feelings about one’s abilities, appearance, and overall identity.
- Self-efficacy
- Refers to confidence in one’s ability to succeed at specific tasks, and it’s shaped by social experiences. Self-efficacy affects how people approach challenges and work toward goals.
- Locus of control
- Refers to beliefs about how much control individuals have over what happens in their lives. According to concept creator Rotter, people tend to have either an internal locus of control (the belief that outcomes depend largely on personal actions) or an external locus of control (the belief that outcomes are determined mainly by outside forces).
Different types of identities
- Race/Ethnicity: While race often refers to physical characteristics like skin color and genetic traits, ethnicity involves shared culture, language, religion, and traditions.
- Gender: Involves self-identification and expression (e.g., male, female, nonbinary), distinct from sex, which is a biological classification.
- Age: Reflects chronological age versus one’s subjective sense of how old they feel.
- Sexual orientation: Pertains to whom a person is attracted.
- Class: Related to wealth or the degree of respect afforded to someone, sometimes for reasons beyond money.
Formation of identity
Theories of identity development (e.g., gender, moral, psychosexual, social)
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Moral development
- A key part of socialization, moral development describes how people learn what their society defines as “good” or “bad,” which helps maintain social order. Lawrence Kohlberg introduced a theory of moral development with three stages: preconventional, conventional, and postconventional.
- Preconventional: Young children, who have limited cognitive abilities, experience the world largely through their senses. At this stage, morality is based on punishments and rewards.
- Conventional: Typically develops in adolescence. People begin to consider how their actions affect others’ feelings, and they define right and wrong in terms of social conformity and law and order.
- Postconventional: Involves more abstract moral reasoning. People recognize that what is legal is not always what is moral, and they emphasize social contracts and universal ethical principles.
- A key part of socialization, moral development describes how people learn what their society defines as “good” or “bad,” which helps maintain social order. Lawrence Kohlberg introduced a theory of moral development with three stages: preconventional, conventional, and postconventional.
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Gender
- Carol Gilligan noted that Kohlberg’s research included only males, which could introduce gender bias. She found that boys often adopt a justice perspective, emphasizing rules and laws, while girls often show a care and responsibility perspective, focusing on the reasons behind behaviors that might appear morally wrong.
- Gilligan argued that these differences reflect gender socialization rather than innate moral differences. Kohlberg treated the justice perspective as the superior approach; Gilligan argued that neither perspective is inherently “better.” She suggested that boys are often socialized for work settings, where rules support efficiency, while girls are often socialized for home environments, where flexibility supports caregiving and nurturing.
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Psychosexual
- Sigmund Freud introduced psychosexual development, arguing that children’s pleasure-seeking focuses on a particular erogenous zone during each of five stages: oral, anal, phallic, latency, and genital.
Freud’s stages of psychosexual development
| Stage | Age (years) | Erogenous zone | Major conflict | Adult fixation example |
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| Oral | 0-1 | Mouth | Weaning off breast or bottle | Smoking, overeating |
| Anal | 1-3 | Anus | Toilet training | Neatness, messiness |
| Phallic | 3-6 | Genitals | Oedipus/Electra complex | Vanity, overambition |
| Latency | 6-12 | None | None | None |
| Genital | 12+ | Genitals | None | None |
Table adapted from OpenStax
- Psychosocial
- Erik Erikson’s psychosocial development theory emphasizes the social side of personal growth. Freud argued that personality forms only during childhood, but Erikson argued that development continues across the lifespan. He introduced the idea of ego identity, highlighting how social relationships shape how we understand ourselves.
Erikson’s psychosocial stages of development
| Stage | Age (years) | Developmental task | Description |
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| 1 | 0-1 | Trust vs. mistrust | Trust (or mistrust) that basic needs, such as nourishment and affection, will be met |
| 2 | 1-3 | Autonomy vs. shame/doubt | Develop a sense of independence in many tasks |
| 3 | 3-6 | Initiative vs. guilt | Take initiative on some activities - may develop guilt when unsuccessful or boundaries overstepped |
| 4 | 7-11 | Industry vs. inferiority | Develop self-confidence in abilities when competent or sense of inferiority when not |
| 5 | 12-18 | Identity vs. confusion | Experiment with and develop identity and roles |
| 6 | 19-29 | Intimacy vs. isolation | Establish intimacy and relationships with others |
| 7 | 30-64 | Generativity vs. stagnation | Contribute to society and be part of a family |
| 8 | 65- | Integrity vs. despair | Assess and make sense of life and meaning of contributions |
Table adapted from OpenStax
Influence of social factors on identity formation
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Influence of individuals
- Charles Cooley’s looking-glass self explains how self-concept partly develops from your sense of how others view you. Early in life, imitation is especially important: children copy the behaviors of people around them (e.g., parents, teachers). Later, in the play stage, children practice social roles - such as doctor or teacher - based on what they’ve observed.
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Influence of groups
- A reference group provides a standard for comparison. In the United States, peer groups often serve this role. Many people also compare themselves to multiple reference groups - such as family or cultural communities - which can sometimes create competing norms and expectations.
Influence of culture and socialization on identity formation
- Culture includes a society’s entire way of life, from everyday interactions to deeply held values and traditions. Sociologists use the sociological imagination (a term coined by C. Wright Mills) to connect personal experiences to broader social forces. In this way, culture shapes the choices, interpretations, and viewpoints that contribute to identity formation.
